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pedophiles are attracted to prepubescent children and their acts of sexual fantasies. This is a surprising fact is that this perversion of unknown etiology. Pedophiles from all walks of life, and there is no common social and economic background. Instead, media myths, most diversified and not subject to sexual abuse in childhood and the vast majority of pedophiles are attracted to the return of the opposite sex (are heterosexuals) in adults. Exclusive type of weather is just a veil – who is the temptation to children alone. All pedophiles nine out of ten are men. They are fascinated by preteen females, teenage males, or (more rarely) two. In addition, at least one-fifth (and perhaps more) has a population of pedophiliac fantasies. On the prevalence of child pornography and child prostitution prove it. Pedophiles out of “normal” people, and deeply shocked and distressed to find that their illegal adolescent sexual orientation. The process of transition from socially acceptable and the requirements of many condemned (and criminal) pedophilia are still largely mysterious.Pedophiles mechanisms seem to have narcissistic and antisocial (mental) traits. Their lack of sympathy for their victims and no remorse for their actions. They all denied, but the pathological confabulators, straighten out on their sins, claiming that is for children only their own good, anyway, from that very pleased to receive education. In the pride of pedophiles, resonance rests on his heterogeneous defense. He usually tends to blame his misfortunes, failures and shortcomings of other people (or the world or the “System”). Often accused of pedophilia random act of “the future of the plural” actively tempting, provoking, and luring (or even capture) complex of the victims. In the pedophile – similar to autism – distort the child’s body language and interpersonal cues. His social communication skills, damage, he failed to get the information to adjust to the surrounding environment (for example, the child’s age and maturity). Coupled with his lack of sympathy, this often can not really understand the object of others caused by pedophilia, his lustful goal. The essence of pedophilia, automatic pornography. Pedophiles use children’s body and masturbation. Therefore, the success of the Internet, we have pedophiles: it offers invisible, anonymous, masturbation sex. Children in cyberspace are just statements – more than pornographic photographs and images names.It book nothing is missing the key to realize that pedophilia is not attracted to children themselves, their institutions, or by their germination and sex marriage (remember Nabokov’s Lolita?). In contrast, pedophiles are attracted to children, the symbol of what preadolescents and pedophilia … represent.To sex with children is a “free” and “bold” means free from gender and subteens punishment freedom of movement. It enhances the pedophile’s magical sense of omnipotence and immunity. By flouting the authority of the country and his culture and society, law, experience in a pedophile and now he gradually adrenaline addiction. Sexual misconduct is an urgent need for his life in danger, recklessly.The road pedophilia is reiterated his way of life. The same suspension of pedophiles and (war, famine, epidemics) state of anomie, and linked to major life crises (failure, relocation, widowed, separated, divorce, unemployment, bankruptcy, illness, death of the most disloyal criminals close.) It is quite possible – even though studies have shown so far – this is typical of depression and pedophilia and borderline personality (low organization and fuzzy personal boundaries). Pedophiles reckless and emotional instability. In the pedophile’s sense of self-worth is unstable and disorders. Likely to suffer from anxiety and his abandoned or counterdependent.Paradoxically an interdependent, it is a seemingly lost his life (sexual) aspects of controlled pedophile regain a controlled flu. The same mechanism is in the eating disorder development. An inhibitory deficit is somehow magically be considered omnipotence.II. Sex with children pedophiles to corruption and decadentThe frequent (though unconscious) projection and projection recognition of his relationship with the children. He let his victims treat him the way, he believes he – or multi-attribute characteristics and behavior, is the real his.The pedophiles in society as a despicable, corruption, the Forbidden City, the evil acts that he views, and decadent (especially if the pedophiliac act involves incest). He comes from nature, his pursuit of vulgar because it tends to be very happy to remain as “bad”, “failure”, “worthy of punishment”, and his own views “guilty.” In the extreme (and mercifully uncommon) the case of pedophilia in the torture program and self-perceived feelings of his victim. Tainted children’s attention and sexual abuse, become his “bad” and “bad objects”, guilty and punished. This leads to sexual abuse, rape, desire, and snuff murders. III. Sex with children is a painful repeat of bonds pastMany true pedophiles and their prey. Complex, children are innocent, sincere, trust and loyalty materialized – the quality of pedophilia nostalgic hope back. And the relationship between pedophilia provides a “safe passage” to his own depression and fear, inner children. Through his victim, his pedophiles to gain access to emotional suppression and defeat. This is a fantasy-like second chance to repeat his childhood, this time generous. In the pedophile’s dream of peace with his past to make a real difference to the interaction with the children a desire fulfillment.IV exercise. Sex with children is a shared psychotic pedophiles to “his” chosen child as an object, an extension of their own, the lack of an independent existence and needs of different erosion. He felt that children’s obedience and credulity gratifying. He frowned sign of any personal autonomy, be regarded as a threat. Through intimidation, cajole, charm, making false promises, the abuser separated from his family, school, peers of his prey, and from social and rest, so that children rely on him completely. The pedophile, a child is a “transitional object” – a training ground for the exercise of his adult relationship skills. Pedophiles mistakenly believe that the child will never betray and abandon him, so to ensure that “object constancy” pedophile -. Secretly, but always – in his full use of the psychological structure of the victims of vulnerability. Child with low self-esteem, self-worth, primitive defense mechanisms, phobias, mental health problems, a disability, a history of failure, and the parents, siblings, teachers or peers, or the tendency to fluctuate between a sense of blame bad themselves, or feel inadequate (autologous nerve disease). The child has been abused from a family or environment – What are the conditions or his expectations of her is inevitable and “normal” abuse. In extreme and rare cases – the victim is a masochist, a desire to seek to abuse and pedophiles have pain.The in the center of a cult leader. Like other masters, he asked from his “partner” full of men. He believes that special treatment, commendable, and his children’s teammates. He punishes the wayward and the deviation from the lamb. He forced discipline.The child is in a twilight zone themselves. Pedophiles to impose on him a shared spirit, filled with persecutory delusions, “enemies” myth narrative, apocalyptic scenarios if he is flouted. Child presents a terrible secret.The control pedophiles joint guardians of ambiguity, unpredictability, fuzziness, abuse, and environmental basis. He continuously shifting whims specifically define right and wrong, desirable and unwanted, what is to be pursued, which can be avoided. He alone determined the rights and obligations and the plural, will.The change the pedophile is a typical micro-manager. He put the tiny details and the control of behavior. Withholding his severe punishment and abuse of information and those who do not meet his goal, the desire and pedophiles do not respect boundaries and privacy (not want to miss the translation of the book) children. He ignores his or her will and use it as an object or tool to meet the children. He tried to control the situation and pedophilia are the people compulsively.The condescending arrogance and lack of good books and critical behavior. He stressed that alternates between small fault (derogatory), and exaggerated appearance, talents, qualities, skills and children (ideal). He was unrealistic in his expectations of madness – which he then abused the legalization of conduct.Narcissistic pedophiles claim to be infallible, superior, talented, clever, omnipotent and omniscient. They have a missing book of lies and talk, to support these unreasonable demands, and prove their actions. Most pedophiles suffer from cognitive deficits and reinterpret reality to fit their fantasies.In extreme cases, pedophiles feel above the law – any law class. This is a grand and arrogant belief will lead to criminal acts, incestuous or polygamous relationships, and recurrent friction with the authorities.V. Pedophilia on children as a self, boosterSubteen children, by definition, “inferior” sex. Their body is weak, dependent on others for many of their needs and achieve cognitive and emotional immaturity, it is easy to manipulate. Their knowledge is limited funds and skills limitations. Relationship with him, and consolidate children’s twin pedophilia grand illusion of omnipotence and omniscience. Compared to his victims, pedophiles is always the strong, smart, best-trained, informed.VI. Accompany children to ensure that gender inevitable, that his child victims of pedophilia is his best friend and partner. Pedophiles are lonely, erotomanic, people.The pedophilia that he is in love with (or just like) the children. Gender is only one way to communicate his feelings and concern. But there are venues.To Keane, he showed interest, the common pedophile keeps calling the child, down, write e-mail, gifts, and providing services, to do “on behalf of the child,” uninvited to the job, and with the relations between the pre-adolescent parents, friends, teachers and peers, and in general, to make themselves available at all times (tracking). Free of the feeling of pedophilia in order to compensate for the privacy of the victims of pedophilia child.The into the legal, financial and emotional decisions, lack of respect for the child’s wishes and express their own boundaries, and ignore his or her emotional , needs and preferences. The pedophile, “love” refers to the subdivision and stick with an overpowering separation anxiety coupling (the fear of being abandoned.) In addition, there is no denying the number of severe punishment, threats and hostile actions, more thoroughly convinced erotomaniac does not comply with his love child. He knew better, you can let the world see the light also. Guardian of the child and his children about what is good knowledge. Pedophiles who resolutely as his or her task, so that the child dull and unhappy existence.Thus life and happiness, regardless of overwhelming evidence to the contrary, it is the belief that pedophiles his affection is mutual – for words, the children also infatuated with him or her. He explained that all the kids do (or do refrains) encoded message as the child’s interest in repentance and transportation and eternal devotion, pedophilia and the “relations.” Active verbs (not all) pedophiles, social, inapt, awkward, schizoid, and suffer from mood and anxiety disorders in the host. They have a reasonable return to be with their children (eg, stepfather, former spouse, teacher, physical education teachers, siblings) participating in – or with his parents (for example, a former boyfriend, night stand, colleagues or co-workers.) They are all driven by their cost alone, and pervasive fantasies. Therefore, pedophile victims of adverse reactions that any rejection. The two sides of a turn on a dime, a dangerous grudge, to destroy the installation of their frustration. When the “relationship” looks hopeless, active verbs pedophiles violently embark on a crazy self-destruction.Pedophilia active verbs extent, is a culture-bound syndrome, saying that it is involved in the child’s chronological age. Ephebophilia example, – the exclusive sexual infatuation with teenagers – is not considered a form of pedophilia (or even to perversion) in the active verbs culture, society and countries (Afghanistan, for example) age of consent as low as 12. . Until the late nineteenth century in the United Kingdom marriage age is 10. Pedophilia and certain tribal societies (Pitcairn Island), isolated communities and the society, the connivance of the practice. It is therefore wise to re-attract or defined as a prepubescent child or sexual behavior and the psychological equivalent of pedophilia age (eg, mental retardation) in the social, legal and cultural acceptance is a violation.

Sam Vaknin paragraph ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self Love – Narcissism revisited and rain – how West Manchester East. He has served as Central Europe Review, PopMatters, and eBookWeb, and Bellaonline, columnist for United Press International (UPI) Senior Business Agent. He is the mental health and Central East Europe categories in the Open Directory editor and Suite101.